Why I actually prefer
Sorry to tell you, but size does matter.
I like most things in my life big. I love nothing more than a
giant cup of tea, oversize sweaters, and big personalities.
But I’ve never been into huge pennises.
When I started hooking up with guys, I found that many of
them cared way more about their pe.nis size than I did.
Unless it was something that needed to be in a textbook or
compelled me to call their doctor, I didn’t think much of
it. I’ve been with pennises of all shapes, sizes, and colors and
— call me crazy — I’ve been more interested in what else is
going on with the human I am writhing on top of than how
he stacks up to a ballpark frank.
I was scared of se*xual intercourse early on (I’d been
assaulted, on top of that), so I was mercifully spared by
losing my virg.inity to a man with what could be called a
micro-pennis. It was great seex, which is better than I can say
for most of my friends’ first times. In fact, it was like wading
into the water slowly. I don’t feel like I missed out on
anything at all.
Not every experience was so great. And that’s because I
have since learned (through some painful seex and subsequent
ob-gyn visits) that I have what my doctor playfully calls a
“cute cervix.” Which basically means that it would be harder
for me to take a giant diick on, if we’re frank.
Se.x should never be painful, unless you and your partner are
into that. This is 2016 and there are plenty of things around
to make se.x between any two consenting people satisfying.
But people can be like puzzle pieces: some things just fit
together more easily.
People love to gossip about pennis size. Men constantly exit-
interview me, expecting the size of their genitals would be
the first thing I’d rave about after seex. I’m a sucker for
getting brunch with girlfriends, and hearing about the people
they’ve been with and the weird or sexy things they did. But
we rarely talk about it when it actually hurts. Not to mention,
some men with large pennises are blissfully unaware (due to
centuries of reinforcement) that their big di.cks don’t always
make them good in bed. Saying something hurts can be a
difficult thing to do. You’re sitting there feeling like you have
a javelin scraping your pelvis. Should you say something,
suck it up, or fake an orgasm just to get it over with?
To be fair, there are probably times I should have just
spoken up when seex was painful. It would have been fine
because I’m generally only se.xually attracted to nice people,
but I was a lot younger and a lot less informed than I am
now. But there is still a part of me that, in the heat of the
moment, when a guy is dirty talking me or makes mention to
how well-endowed he is, I get nervous. Like, how big is it
that you feel you need to bring it up? Is this a warning?
Hence my preference for smaller pennises. It’s just easier on
me and my cute cervix to be with a guy without a foot long
dong. – Cosmopolitan